Episode #141: Dating Is F*cking Hard | A Conversation with Ali (Finding Mr. Height)

If there’s anything I’ve learned since opening up my marriage in 2018 and getting on the dating apps for the first time in my life, it’s that dating is HARD. And I’ve felt really lost on how to approach the dating scene. I know so many of you are in my boat, and I knew an episode on the pod around all things dating was vital, and I couldn’t think of anyone better to have one than the one and only Finding Mr. Height (aka Ali).

Ali is a positive, practical dating coach who’s built social media channels with over 200k followers and conducts one-on-one coaching as well as group seminars. Ali believes that finding love should be the same as any other major goal. We can’t expect it to fall into our laps, nor can we expect the same approach to work for everyone. Using actionable, targeted strategies, Ali will help you define what you're looking for...and then go get it. Find her on TikTok and Instagram @findingmrheight or online at www.findingmrheight.com.

Here are some things we talked about in todays episode:

  • our pasts with dating/dating apps

  • what “success” means in relationships

  • what it feels like to share about your dating life online so transparently

  • our thoughts around west elm caleb

  • dating when you’re in the “public eye” and how to maintain privacy

  • dating red flags, ridiculous dating stories, dick picks and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Ali’s Instagram & Tik Tok

Finding Mr. Height

Apps we talked about: Tinder, Ok Cupid, Match, Hinge, Feeld

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer support sessions

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Become a Patreon of the podcast

Join her email list

Episode #140: Finding Steadiness Amidst the Storm (How I'm Really Doing)

After a short intermission, we’re back for the rest of the season and Amanda is kicking off this post hiatus with a solo episode sharing about what she’s been navigating and how she’s really doing. Hint: it’s been really f*cking hard.

Things she talks about in todays episode:

  • the intense losses she’s experienced the last 2 years

  • the excavation process of owning identities and navigating change

  • grief, and the beast it is

  • navigating depression for the first time in her life

  • the 3 practices that have allowed me not to lose myself amidst this time

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer support sessions

Patreon - join her “close friends” list on Instagram at the $5+ level

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

Episode #139: Expectations Really Are The Root Of All Heartache

Okay I know the title is cliche but I did that for a reason ‘cause as we get into people pleasing season around these parts and what causes so much harm to so many of us, I wanted to get into something important we’ve never explicitly talked about on the podcast: expectations.

In todays episode, Amanda dives into how expectations have caused a lot of pain in her life, and her system for identifying if expectations we have a rooted in our knowing or a false sense of self, and then how to communicate and interact with our own expectations and the expectations of others.

If you’ve ever had someone not meet your expectations or had someone be upset with you for not meeting theirs, this episode is for you.

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer support sessions

Patreon

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

Episode #138: Why Resolutions Are More Harmful Than Helpful Right Now

Happy 2022 loves.

Or should I say, WTF am I doing with my life continued.

Anyone else feeling this way? I know I am.

I always have lots of feelings about new years resolutions, goal setting and beyond. But this year, it’s different in a profound way. And I’m coming at you hot with a solo episode from my heart to yours sharing all about my struggles entering a new year — and I’m guessing you can relate.

So grab a cup of coffee and join me as we kick off the new year with a change in perspective on some tried and true rituals that just don’t MF serve us anymore.

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer support session

Patreon

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

Episode #137: WTF Went Down Astrologically Speaking In 2021 & What's To Come | A Conversation with Resident Astrologer Jordan Shomer

And just like that, we’ve gone a whole entire year around the sun and it’s time for our yearly astrology recap with the Live Your F*ck Yes Lifes resident astrologer — the one and only Jordan Shomer (she/her).

She’s an astrologer, intuitive, cosmic coach, and an Aquarius passionate about leading the charge into the future armed with cosmic consciousness and radical, unapologetic authenticity. Jordan sees our personal astrology and a blueprint to healing and guidebook to growth. In a world that expects us to be one thing, Jordan aims to illuminate and affirm all of your beautiful complexities.

And on todays episode, we dive deep into everything that went down astrologically in 2021 and unpack what the stars say is to come as we head into 2022.


Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • a step by step astrological look at the year 2021

  • The two main energies we’ve been navigating as a society this year and how that’s led to our individual experiences

  • the intensity of Venus as of 12/17/21 and how our relationships are going to be impacted over the next few months

  • the shifting of the nodes and what the next 18 months or so have in store for us

  • the collective movement towards breaking away from the traditional norm we’ve been grounded in over the last 200 years

  • liberation, our relationship to change, navigating through the f*cking mess and beyond.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Jordans Instagram

Jordans website: https://www.yourastrologerfriend.com/

https://girlandthegalaxyworkshops.teachable.com/p/2022-cosmic-guide

Instagram for the studio she’ll doing a pop-up in Chicago on Thursday Dec 16th: https://instagram.com/golduststudios?utm_medium=copy_link

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 2-3 new 1:1 coaching clients come Jan 2022. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if it’s a good fit.

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Peer support: www.liveyourfuckyeslife.com/peersupport

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #136: The No Kids Life Is The Life For Me

Last week, I went to a doctors appointment that I’ve been putting off for a couple of years out of fear. And the appointment brought up some stuff I’ve been pushing to the side to tackle head on since I found out I had the BRCA 1 gene mutation 3 years ago.

All of you know that having the BRCA 1 mutation is linked to my risk to breast cancer, but what many of you probably don’t know is that it’s also linked to ovarian cancer — which means that if any family planning is involved in my world, it HAS to happen before I turn 35.

I’ve been unpacking this part of my story a lot behind closed doors, but I’ve never done it with all of you so, in true Amanda in the mess fashion, I’m opening the door to this conversation in todays episode.

Things I talk about in todays episode:

  • how to know if we’re supposed to be a parent

  • choosing to have kids in the climate we live in

  • the different tenants of the relationship escalator

  • how 3 years ago, I went from knowing I wanted kids no matter what to not wanting them overnight

  • the ethics around having kids with a genetic mutation of this nature

  • the nuclear family

  • polyamory, ovarian cancer, the BRCA gene and beyond

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer support sessions

Patreon

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

Episode #135: WTF Should We Need & Expect Of Our Partners | A Conversation with Gabrielle Stone

You loved her the last time she was here and she’s BACK!

Gabrielle Stone (she/her), a fan favorite on the Live Your F*ck Yes Life podcast, makes no secret about her past with toxic relationships & a cheating MF of an ex husband. And she’s shared it all in her best selling books and on her podcast and beyond. I’ve been having a lot of conversations in my DMs and with friends about the expectations and needs we place on our partners and, given that I am polyamorous and inherently bring that bias and lens to any conversation around relationships, I wanted to bring on someone who consciously chooses monogamy to have this conversation with and knew that Gabrielle was the gal to call upon.

Things we talk about on this episode:

  • conversations we’ve had with our friends around the important things in relationships

  • our shared need to be seen, loved and championed for who we are

  • how societal norms have informed our paths in relationship dynamics & choices

  • the importance of communication

  • the BS narrative that healing can only happen when we’re single

  • the lessons we can take from the relationships we’ve had and have

  • the idea “soulmate” or “the one”

  • Amanda’s constellation way of viewing her relationships

  • the needs & expectations we have in our romantic partnerships

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Summit: Non Monogamy & Polyamory

Gabrielle’s Instagram

The Ridiculous Misadventures of A Single Girl

Episode 134: I’m Addicted To You Don’t You Know That You’re Toxic Monogamy Culture

Episode 125: Eat, Pray, #FML with Gabrielle Stone

FML Talk: F%ck Polyamory

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer Support Sessions

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Become a Patreon of the podcast

Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

Episode #134: I'm Addicted To You Don't You Know That You're Toxic Monogamy Culture

I’ve been sharing more and more about toxic monogamy culture and it’s been a super polarizing subject. For many, they outright deny that it could even be a thing. For others, it’s been a massive lightbulb a-ha moment where everything starts to make sense about why they’ve felt so much resistance for so long. And other folks are like F*CK YESSSS THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS IT’S SUCH A THING AND NOBODY DOES!

It’s a lot to navigate through — the responses, the emotions and our own unique response when we’re met with the idea of toxic monogamy culture in the first place — and I get it! It was A LOT for me to wrap my head around too when I started unpacking it in my own life. So today, we’re deep diving into this incredibly important topic and getting into the juicy details once and for all.

Things I cover in todays episode:

  • how me just being who I am is in and of itself polarizing for so many folks

  • compulsory heteronormativity & monogamy

  • approaching life from a lens of curiosity

  • how toxic monogamy culture is possible in monogamy AND polyamory

  • my perspective on monogamy as a whole

  • WTF toxic monogamy actually is

  • The relationship escalator

  • Some prime examples of how toxic monogamy shows up in relationships

Episode #133: Demisexual Sluts Unite | A Conversation with Jessica Levity

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Demisexual sluts unite.

Okay, all jokes aside for a minute, today on the podcast, we’re deep diving into all things demisexuality. Whether you identify as a slut or not, you’re gonna LOVE this conversation where my friend and fellow polyamorous creator & educator Jess deep dive into our personal experiences coming into our demisexuality — and so much more.

Who is Jess? Jessica Levity (she/her) is a digital media and live entertainment producer and entertainer livin' in Reno, Nevada. Pre-panny you could find her on stage in a variety of touring shows through her company Homeslice Productions. After the pandemic killed her industry, she finally launched a "back-burner" project called "Remodeled Love", whose mission is to "expand the cultural narrative on healthy relationships and polyamory". It is now her most successful (and global) project! She's a white, cis woman, who identifies as a queer, polyamorous, demisexual slut. She's also a mama, an anti-capitalist, and witchy as fuck.

If you don’t know her, get ready to fall in love with her energy, her real-ness and the hilarity that ensues in this conversation.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • Woo practices & outlining the most important pieces of our dating profiles

  • The definition of demisexuality

  • What being demisexual has meant for us

  • Our group chat of polyamorous creators

  • How things plays into our individual journeys with kink

  • How we both feel about being demisexual and how it impacts our polyamorous journeys

  • Power, expectations, flirting, body dysmorphia and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Jess’s Instagram | Website

Remodeled podcast

Jessamyn Stanley

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer support sessions

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Become a Patreon of the podcast

Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

Episode #132: What Healing Really Looks Like | A Conversation with Dana Christy

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TW: eating disorder cycles, bullying, queer shame, the holocaust, rape

When I was thinking about how I wanted to start this season, I knew I couldn’t get into any conversation and bring anyone on before speaking to the deepest thread of my personal life these last few months and since the end of season 5. Which is why I am so excited to share this conversation and human with you.

Dana Christy (they/she) — to me — is before anything, one of my deepest personal healers & someone I am grateful to call a friend. To the rest of the world, they are a queer and trauma informed certified Shiatsu practitioner, licensed Massage Therapist, and therapeutic yoga practitioner under the umbrella of her wellness practice WellSpring Healing Arts.

Dana studied bodywork and East Asian Medicine at Zen Shiatsu Chicago and earned yoga teaching certifications for children and adults with Global Family Yoga and Yogaview. Dana specializes in working with trauma, autoimmune conditions, chronic illness, and the LGBTQIAP+ community.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • The various roles we play in our day to day life

  • What I’ve been navigating within my own healing journey the last year

  • Chronic pain / symptoms

  • How to even begin to come home to your body

  • The bullshit narrative of healing in our culture today

  • The “healed people heal people” trend on Tik tok and why we hate it

  • WTF trauma even is

  • Yeast infections, queer shame, recovery, simple & accessible healing tools and beyond

Episode #131: What Living My F*ck Yes Life Means To Me Now

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Happy start to season 6, my Live Your F*ck Yes Lifers.

It always brings up so much gratitude for me when I kick off a new season of the podcast, and this one is no different.

As always, on this podcast, we tackle taboo subjects that aren’t spoken to very often. And we’re going in that space this season, DEEP. And I ask that you come in, as always, with an open heart and mind. Create space in yourself to learn and be curious. This is how we grow beyond our wildest dreams, my loves. Let’s do the damn thing.

Things I cover in today’s episode:

  • The mess of being a MF human

  • The light & the darkness and everything in between

  • Where the podcast is moving from now on / what to expect moving forward

  • The things I’ve navigated over the course of the last 3 years

  • Coming home to yourself

  • Change & evolution & full circles and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Patreon

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Polyam / ENM peer support sessions

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

Episode #130: What Pride Means To Me Now

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And just like that, we’ve come full circle and are at the end of this season of the Live Your F*ck Yes Life podcast. Which feels incredibly fitting to be ending at the beginning of Pride month since Amanda started this season with coming out as polyamorous.

What. A. Season.

On todays episode, Amanda reflects on the last two years of her life. On what coming into her queerness, and coming out has done for her. On what navigating the waters of polyamory has given her. And so much more.

Pull up a chair, some headphones, or a cup of coffee and join her as we close out this season with an emotionally heartfelt heart to heart.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Let’s Talk Polyamory live q&a community zoom — sign up here

Sign up for a 1:1 peer support session - for all things polyamory

Youtube version of this episode

Episode 100

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new long term coaching clients for the remainder of 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #129: Bisexuality, Polyamory & Coming Home To Yourself | A Q&A episode

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Todays episode is a little different & fun — I’m answering some incredible community based questions around all things sexuality, polyamory and beyond.

I haven’t done a q&a episode in a while, and while I answer questions all of the time on Instagram and Tik Tok, it’s really tough to really peel back the curtain and answer with any level of depth on those platforms. So today, we’re getting down and dirty in the goods.

Pull up your headphones and press play to laugh alongside of me and rock out this special episode!

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Virtual Summit

Sign up for a 1:1 peer support session - for all things polyamory

Youtube version of this episode

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #128: I'm The Heaviest I've Ever Been

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Has anyone else experienced weight gain during the pandemic?

It’s something that I’ve been personally navigating and, as a human in recovery from eating disorder cycles and body dysmorphia, I have a lot of things to say on the subject.

Check out todays episode for a deep behind the scenes dive into the struggles with loving our bodies and the experiences that Amanda has faced recently and the major takeaways they have given her. If you’ve navigated any kind of eating disorder cycle, body dysmorphia or disdain for your body , this episode is for you, love.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Virtual Summit

Sign up for a 1:1 peer support session - for all things polyamory

Youtube version of this episode

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #127: MRKH Syndrome Awareness with Kylie McMahon

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What is MRKH syndrome? Until I met Kylie, I had no idea either.

When Kylie found out she had MRKH, she felt completely alone. And while it’s rare (1 in 5000 women have it), it’s something that many of us can relate to — whether we’ve had our own experiences around unexpected diagnosis that change our lives, any struggles when it comes to sex or infertility.

Kylie is from Toronto, Ontario. She’s an inspired creator, a deep feeler, and a performer at heart. She’s a human of many passions: people, dogs, music, movement, self-discovery, mental health, craft beer, Italian food, coffee, tattoos, true crime, and writing. And she’s turned all of these passions into getting her own story of living with MRKH syndrome into the world, and developing awareness of it so others feel less alone.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • How Kylie discovered she had MRKH

  • The ins and outs and MRKH

  • Navigating shame

  • Her journey with sex and not feeling “normal”

  • How the diagnosis impacted her mental health

  • Normalizing the lack of desire to have children

  • What she would tell her twenty something year old self

  • Infertility, partnered sex, all things taboo and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Sign up for a 1:1 peer support session

Let’s Talk Polyamory community zoom call

Video version of the podcast

Kylies Instagram

Couples therapy

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #126: WTF To Do When You're Heartbroken AF

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On todays solo episode of the podcast, Amanda deep dives into her journey through heartbreak and grief over the last year of her life.

Grief is a beast. And the last year has been a year where collectively and individually, we’ve been grieving in a deeper way than ever before. Friendships have shifted. Longterm partnerships have ended. And dating? Don’t even get her started on it.

Check out todays episode for a deep behind the scenes dive into the struggles with heartbreak and grief that Amanda has faced recently and the major takeaways they have given her. If you’ve navigated heartbreak and the end of relationships in your life, this episode is for you, love.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Community — become a Patron!

Sign up for a 1:1 peer support session

Let’s Talk Polyamory community zoom call

Youtube version of this episode

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #125: Eat, Pray, #FML with Gabrielle Stone

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This gal? She’s Eat, Pray, Love but with all the real talk and vulnerability and delicious messiness that is real life. She’s been through it all — a massive divorce post affair, heartbreak, a solo adventure trip to find herself. All of which led to her writing her book Eat, Pray, #FML — and in todays episode, we deep dive into all things love, heartbreak, grief, self love and beyond.

Gabrielle Stone is no stranger to the world of entertainment. Growing up on set with her legendary scream-queen mother, Dee Wallace (Cujo, E.T.), she had days of licking off mommy’s fake blood and watching behind the scenes movie magic. Seeing the world with mom and dad gave her the travel bug at an early age—until Gabrielle experienced a real-life horror when she lost her father suddenly at age seven. After many years in the industry herself, Stone transitioned from meaty acting roles to writing and directing. Her award-winning films It Happened Again Last Night and After Emma gained her awards for writing, directing, and acting—but she had a bigger role in life that would soon present itself: freaking badass.

 After the rug was vigorously pulled out from under her when her husband’s affair came to light, she found herself falling into the arms of another man. After a second failed attempt at love and a massive heartbreak, she decided that instead of landing flat on her ass—she’d make a career out of it.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • The journey that led her to write her book

  • Her experience of and perspective around grief and heartbreak

  • The biggest thing she’s learned on her journey

  • Patterns in relationships and where they come from

  • Love bombing

  • What her next book is about

  • Red flags to look out for when dating, some never before shared truths about the characters in her book and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Patreon

Video version of the podcast

Gabrielles website: https://www.eatprayfml.com/

Gabrielles Instagram | Tik Tok - @gabrielle_stone

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #124: All Things Vaginal Health, HPV, Pain with Sex & Beyond with Dr. Sameena Rahman

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Vaginal Health. Pain With Sex. STI stigmas.

As vulva owners, it can be incredibly frustrating to know what’s normal. From the moment we start menstruating, there are so many things to figure out — and little to no education around it. And it’s frustrating as f*ck. Finding a gynecologist that has been a true advocate for my health, and that I trust deeply, was a very important part of my own health story, and I am so thrilled to welcome my very own to the podcast.

Dr. Sameena Rahman is a practicing gynecologist with a solo practice in downtown Chicago specializing in female sexual dysfunction, menopause care, vulvar dermatosis , and pelvic pain as well as 4th trimester care. She has an academic affiliation with Northwestern Feinberg School of Medicine as a Clinical Assistant Professor where she teaches medical students and residents. She grew up down south in North Carolina and attended undergrad at Duke university and medical school at the University of NC at Chapel Hill and completed residency up north in Massachusetts. She worked in Southern California for years at USC prior to moving to Chicago and getting married . She loves to teach, peloton, and spend time with her kids and family.

Things we talk about in todays episode

  • Painful sex — is it normal?

  • Pelvic floor dysfunction

  • HPV and the likelihood of getting an abnormal pap

  • Birth control pills

  • Being an advocate for yourself

  • Weird discharge and what it means

  • The science behind how to really treat our vulvas and vaginas with love

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Patreon

Video version of the podcast

Dr. Rahmans website: Www.CGcChicago.com

Dr. Rahmans Instagram | Facebook | Youtube

ISSWSH

International Study for society of vulvar & vaginal diseases

American college of OBGYN

North American Menopause Society

International Pelvic Pain Society

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #123: I Spent Years Hiding | A Solo Episode

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In todays solo episode, Amanda candidly shares about her pattern of hiding — something she’s been actively working on in therapy for the past few years.

She deep dives into the ways in which she’s hidden in her life — via her years of eating disorder cycles, hiding her goofy self because of her years of being bullied all the way to hiding her sexuality and propensity to polyamory.

Wanna know how to fully embody your fuck yes self? Breaking the pattern of hiding is a crucial step. So let’s deep dive into this emotionally raw episode and bring the tissues — you may need them. She certainly did.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Community — become a Patron!

Sign up for a 1:1 peer support session

Youtube version of this episode

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #122: Breaking Down Attachment Styles with Jessica Fern

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I’ve been wanting to have a conversation around attachment theory and the various attachment styles on the podcast for a long time, and I knew as soon as I started reading Polysecure that I needed to have Jessica on to break it all down.

Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non Monogamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • Her work as a psychotherapist and what led her to focusing on attachment styles and polyamory

  • The four different types of attachment

  • Her perspective around identifying with our attachment styles versus the way to approach the path to building secure attachments

  • Ethical non monogamy and polyamory

  • How we develop our individual attachment styles

  • How to develop secure attachments in ethically non monogamous relationships

  • The difference between a secure base and a safe haven

  • The HEARTS action steps, stepping off the relationship escalator, evolution & growth and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

School of Fears, Feels & Fucks

Video version of the podcast

Buy Jessica’s book: Polysecure

Jessica’s website

Stepping Off The Relationship Escalator

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists