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Episode #160: How I'm Really Doing | A Divorce Update

One of the most common things I get asked by you all is how I’m really doing post / during my divorce, and I get it. I haven’t really talked about how I’m doing in a direct way regarding this particular piece of my story and while that’s been intentional — I realized that not doing so was also a disservice to all of you and to this process.

If there’s anything I’ve realized through this experience, it’s that there are not a lot of blueprints out there on how to navigate the process of a divorce. What you might expect. Shit you might face.

I thought I could have predicted what the last year and half would look like. And I was wrong. It’s been a rollercoaster. One that I’m finally sharing more about on todays episode.

If you are going through a divorce or a de-escalation, please give yourself some grace. This shit is hard. Complicated. Messy. And if you know someone going through either, reach out to them and tell them you’re there.

PS: my neighbors downstairs were having what sounded like a rave during the only time I had to record this so, enjoy the weird ambient music LOL


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Episode #149: Divorce Doesn't Have To Be A Dirty Word

I wasn’t sure that I was going to share this episode today, but it felt right, so here we are. And, in true Amanda fashion, we’re getting wildly vulnerable and moving through the mess on our season finale of the podcast about something so many of you have been wondering for months:

Divorce.

Specifically my divorce.

This episode is messy, because divorce is messy.

This episode is filled with feels, because transitions and grief like this brings up a lot.

This episode also tackles the notion that divorce, de-escalations and breakups don’t have to be (and often rarely are) this cut and dry, black and white, good / bad thing.

Sometimes, divorce is the very thing that sets you free. It is and was for me.

Things Amanda talks about in todays episode:

  • What this episode is not going to be about

  • Boundaries with respect to when / what to share around this chapter

  • The 3 life events that are most disruptive to our nervous system / mental health

  • The difference between a breakup and a de-escalation

  • Leading with love

  • The reason for the divorce had nothing to do with polyamory

  • Being a big feeler, relationship anarchist values, the things she’s been doing to support herself during this time & what’s next


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All About Love by Bell Hooks

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Episode #148: Platonic Intimacy & Why We Really Went On A Break | A Conversation With My Platonic Life Partner Rachel Wright

Today’s episode is one I honestly wasn’t sure would or could ever happen.

If you’ve been around these parts for a while, you will know Rachel Wright not just as the incredible psychotherapist & sex educator, but as one of my dearest friends, collaborators & business partners.

From the moment we met in 2018, we instantly knew we were kindred spirits. Meant to meet. And we spent the next few years being partners in the truest form of the word.

Platonic partners, but partners. We were each others lifeline and person on all things coming out as bi/pan/queer, on all things non monogamy and, truly, just in everything in life.

What you don’t know is that we didn’t talk for almost an entire year.

And today, six months after we began the process of repairing our relationship, we sit down for an extended conversation about what really happened & where we are today — in our relationship, and in our individual selves as queer, non monogamous folks.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • The nitty gritty on the first time we met up after a year long, no contact break

  • The intense grief that comes with losing a friendship & the fear/anxiety around attempting to rekindle it

  • Codependency in platonic relationships

  • Where we are now in our relationship with each other

  • How Rach’s relationship with her three primary partners came to be

  • Where we both stand in our queer & non monogamous identities now

  • Queer crushes, butt plugs, polyamorous breakups, play parties, relationship anarchy & beyond


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Episode #58: What the f*ck to do after a breakup with Jessica Smith

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I am so excited to have Jessica back on the podcast to talk about BREAKUPS.

Let’s be honest — the dating world these days is tough as nails. And while Cosmo may be full of dating tips, relationship tips and sex tips, the thing we never hear about is how to navigate a breakup. Which feels SO backwards because I’d bet that 95% of you have been through one in your lives — I know I have.

And it’s gut wrenching. Heartbreaking. And there’s no support attached to that. So as always, I brought the MF support with this incredibly open and vulnerable conversation.

As a reminder, Jessica Smith is the author of YOUR TWENTIES, a book about change and how to take good care of yourself as a 20-something navigating the “real world.” Jess is the host of two podcasts, THAT VALLEY VIBE, a show about wellness and CAREER COACHING WITH JESSNESS, a show about doing your best work in the world, landing job interviews and how to build a personal brand. When she’s not writing or recording podcasts you can find her meeting with people 1:1 about how Doterra Essential Oils can positively impact their health and hosting events with her oil community, The Wellness Squad.

In today’s episode we cover topics like:

  • Her story of getting broken up with the man she thought she was going to marry

  • The 5 stages of a breakup

  • What to do when you feel like you can’t function

  • The journey back to yourself post breakup

  • Body work as a powerful positive coping mechanism

  • The answers you’re looking for? They are within you.

  • Finding closure in the most unexpected way


LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE

Episode 16 with Jess Smith

Jess’s website | Instagram

Jess’s book Your Twenties

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