CW: sexual assault, harassment

“Something is wrong with me.” Words I used to think and say out loud all the damn time when I wasn’t feeling turned on enough or when I felt pain during sex or when I started having sex with vulva owners and had no idea what the fuck I was doing.

If only I’d known about how trauma and living in a culture rooted in the patriarchy can impact our own body’s (and thus selves) ability to access our own needs for consent, our own voice and access our own desires.

In todays very raw and incredibly important episode, I’m so honored to be joined by Mariah Freya (she/her), co-founder and CEO of Beducated — the worlds leading online shame free sex education platform — to deep dive into all of this and more.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

our shared experience with sexual trauma and how that has impacted our sex lives and capacity for pleasure
cultivating safety in sex
Mariah’s dangerous experience in the tantric community
how big tech is intentionally getting in the way of shame free sex education
dissociation and PTSD responses during / around sex
ways to deepen into your pleasure with intention
navigating low libido, pelvic floor pain, cults, punk culture and beyond

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Today’s solo episode is different than anything I’ve ever shared on the podcast.

This is not a training.

I am no expert on any of this, but I do know that for the first time, I’ve felt the need and desire to contribute to the conversation around #metoo.

This past week has been tumultuous for me. For my community. I didn’t think I’d be recording this right now, if ever. But my gut was telling me to have courage. Share my experience. My beliefs. My thoughts. In hopes that for even just one of you, you can feel less alone. Heard. Or maybe, just maybe, share a perspective with you that isn’t yours. That causes you to think outside of what you know and experience.

This is an invitation to a conversation around the #metoo movement in light in recent allegations that have deeply impacted me. I hope you’ll join in.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE:

Ana Luisa Jewelry

Article about CCPA

When They See Us

Resources for you: Work Places respond | Me Too Movement Resources | National Sexual Assault Helpline

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