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Episode #142: You Can F*cking Choose The Way You Do Relationships, And It’s Epic

Confused AF about what kind of relationship model you actually want because all you’ve ever been taught is monogamy or bust? And even THEN, monogamy has soooo much variability from person to person around expectations, needs, what the relationship feels like/looks like, boundaries etc?

Amanda was too.

We aren’t taught this shit. We’re just thrown into the world to figure it out by the seat of our pants, so she’s popping into your earbuds today to talk about just what your options really are, so you can move through your relationships and life decisions from a place that is rooted in your unique values, desires and needs.

Things she talks about in todays episode:

  • A breakdown of the different relationship models, from Monogamy to Relationship Anarchy (all along her Fuck Yes Relationship Model scale) — go to @amandkatherineloy on Instagram for the visual to follow along

  • What model she feels most particularly aligned with

  • The importance of knowing your values

  • How to communicate with your partners so you can have aligned expectations

Episode #120: Let's Talk Polyamory | A Conversation Around Fear of Replacement with My Husband

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In todays episode of our “Let’s Talk Polyamory” series of the podcast, we deep dive into all things fear of abandonment and replacement. Todays topic really hits close to home for both of us, in very different ways. And it seems to hit close to home to many of you as well — next to jealousy, this has been our most requested conversation!

Tune in to todays episode to hear all about:

  • how we’ve navigated these fears pre polyamory

  • specifics around how we’ve struggled with these fears in wildly unique ways

  • how attachment theory plays into this

  • where this fear really stems from

  • Amanda gets vulnerable AF about some of her experiences that have led to her feeling more of these feelings in the last year

  • why we attract people into our lives that amplify our fears

  • tools that have supported us while navigating fear of being replaced or abandoned and beyond

Episode #35: Polyamory and ethical non monogamy with Dedeker Winston

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EPISODE SNEAK PEEK

Our narratives around love and sex and romance don’t necessarily hold up all of the time.

Dedeker Winston was raised to be a wholesome Christian conservative, but later opted to be a sex-positive polyamory activist, relationship coach, and nude model. She currently provides one-on-one coaching services for people transitioning into non-monogamy and is one of the hosts of the Multiamory podcast. She has been sought out as an expert for Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Newsweek, Vice, Bustle, AskMen, and recently presented a Talk at Google on non-monogamy. She is the author of The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory.

Here are a few things we discuss in todays episode:

  • Polyamory 101: what does it even mean to be polyamorous?

  • Dedeker’s journey from conservative Christian to sex positive and ethical non monogamy activist

  • Removing the stigma from ethical non monogamy

  • Infidelity, affairs and being attracted to someone else when you’re already in a relationship

  • Cultural norms and the expectations placed on us without being aware of it

  • The relationship escalator and how more of us are on it without even realizing it

  • Jealousy

  • The multiple ways you can dive into the world of ethical non monogamy

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE

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Websites: dedekerwinston.com | multiamory.com
Twitter: @dedekerwinston
Snag her book The Smart Girls Guide to Polyamory // Audiobook version coming out on October 18th!

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